Tag: friendship

The Kind of Friendships I Pray For

A little reflection on faith, discernment, and the kind of friendships I pray for-relationships filled with grace, understanding, genuine care, and people who bring us closer to the Lord.

Hi friends, good morning. 🤍

As many of you know, I created this little corner of the internet simply to share whenever I feel something placed on my heart. Sometimes that means sharing my thoughts, emotions, motherhood, or something the Lord has been teaching me.

But I also want this space to grow with me.

So, little heads up: you may start seeing a little more variety around here: things I love, products I genuinely use, little tips, motherhood things, home things, and whatever else feels worth sharing. Faith will always be at the heart of this blog, but there is so much more of life that I would love to share with you too.

For today, though, I simply wanted to wish you a beautiful and blessed week and leave you with something that has been on my heart lately.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the people we allow close to us.

One of the things I pray for is friendships that bring me closer to the Lord. Not friendships that simply look Christian from the outside, but friendships where faith is genuinely lived.

I want friends who will pray before a meal with me. Friends who will say, “Please pray for me,” when they’re going through something. Friends who will remind me to trust God when I’m struggling. Friends who will genuinely say, “I’m praying for you,” and actually mean it.

Because following Jesus isn’t just about saying the right things.

It isn’t always hearts and flowers. It isn’t about appearing perfect or appearing godly. Following Jesus requires obedience, humility, forgiveness, self-control, love, and sometimes doing the exact opposite of what our emotions are telling us to do.

And goodness, that can be hard.

Recently I was reading 2 Timothy 3:1-5, and one part especially stayed with me:

“Having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.”

That really made me think about discernment.

Sometimes God allows situations to reveal things we couldn’t see before. Sometimes relationships change. Sometimes people we thought would remain close to us don’t. And sometimes what initially feels like disappointment may actually be God’s protection.

I’m learning to be thankful for that too.

At this season of my life, especially as a mom, I don’t want relationships that feel heavy or complicated. I pray for friendships filled with grace and understanding… friendships where we don’t have to talk every single day to know that we love one another.

I want friendships where months, miles, busy schedules, babies, work, and life don’t erase genuine care.

Where we come back to one another with kindness.

Where we pray for one another.

Where we encourage one another.

Where we make one another’s lives a little lighter instead of heavier.

And above everything else, where we help one another walk closer to Jesus.

I don’t want faith in my life to ever be something I simply display. I want it to shape the way I speak, forgive, love, choose my relationships, raise my children, and live my everyday life.

My prayer continues to be very simple:

Lord, place people in my life who bring me closer to You, and give me the wisdom to recognize the relationships that don’t.

And when God reveals something to us – even when the lesson hurts – I pray that we have enough faith to trust that He sees what we cannot see.

Sometimes being redirected is protection.

Sometimes losing something is actually being spared from something.

And sometimes God clearing space in our lives is simply making room for what He has next. 🤍

With love & grace,

Tay

The Kind of Friendship Motherhood Taught Me to Value

Motherhood has changed me in more ways than I could ever put into words.

My two little blessings 🥹✨️

Becoming a mother to one child transformed my heart. Becoming a mother of two changed me even more.

My priorities shifted. My schedule changed. My energy changed. Even the way I spend my time looks completely different than it did a few years ago.

These days, my children come first.

Not because I don’t care about my friendships, my hobbies, or the people I love – but because this season of life asks something different from me. It asks me to be present. It asks me to pour into my family. It asks me to slow down and pay attention to the little people who depend on me every single day.

And because of that, I’ve noticed something else: motherhood has changed what I need from friendship, too.

When I was younger, friendship often meant long conversations, constant communication, and always knowing what was happening in each other’s lives.

Now?

Now friendship looks a little different.

It looks like sending a message and getting a response two days later.

It looks like making plans weeks in advance because everyone’s schedule is full.

It looks like checking in with a simple, “Hey, how are you doing? Do you need anything?”

It looks like understanding that silence is not rejection.

It looks like grace.

Most of my friends are mothers, too. Some have two children. Some have three. Some are balancing work, school schedules, sports practices, laundry piles, dinner, bedtime routines, and everything in between.

The truth is, if I judged my friendships by how quickly someone replied to a text message, I probably wouldn’t have any friends left.

Because life is busy.

And motherhood is beautiful, but it is also demanding.

I understand now that taking a day – or even several days – to respond doesn’t mean someone doesn’t care. Sometimes it simply means they are surviving another busy week.

One of the greatest gifts a friend can give a mother is understanding.

Not guilt.

Not pressure.

Not expectations that she remains exactly the same person she was before children.

Because she won’t.

Motherhood changes us.

It softens some parts of us and strengthens others. It teaches us to protect our time more carefully. It teaches us to choose presence over performance.

The friendships that thrive during this season are often the ones that make room for that change.

The ones that don’t require daily conversations to prove love.

The ones that don’t keep score.

The ones that understand that friendship isn’t measured by how often we text, but by how deeply we care.

Some friends are with us for a season.

Some friends stay for a lifetime.

And sometimes friendships naturally evolve as our lives evolve.

There doesn’t have to be anger or resentment attached to that. Sometimes it is simply part of growing.

As mothers, what we need most are friends who can meet us where we are.

Friends who understand when we disappear for a few days.

Friends who don’t need constant explanations.

Friends who can say, “Let’s get the kids together this afternoon,” or “I’m thinking about you,” or “How can I pray for you today?”

Friends who bring peace instead of pressure.

The older I get, the more I realize that true friendship feels light.

Not because it lacks depth, but because it is built on understanding.

It leaves room for busy seasons.

It leaves room for growth.

It leaves room for grace.

And maybe that’s what being present really means.

Not being available every minute of every day.

Not responding instantly.

Not keeping up appearances.

But showing up when it matters.

Checking in.

Remembering one another.

Offering support.

Giving grace.

And choosing love, even when life gets busy.

Because sometimes the most beautiful friendships are the ones that quietly remain – steady, faithful, and understanding – through every season of life.

With love and grace,

Tay